The Wrong Messages

In the last century – and more and more lately – there’s this concept that girls aim to be a man’s equal. The idea is that they want guys to be sensitive, metrosexual, and even submissive. It seems like it isn’t so much about girls being manlier, but men being more womanly.

Movies constantly induce into our brains the idea that the nice guy, the fat boy, or the misunderstood chump will somehow get the babe in the end.

More so, turn on the television. The big chump on a sitcom always has a slim, pretty wife. The idea is that cracking a few jokes, buying red roses on Valentine’s Day and having a wardrobe full of big bowling shirts makes up for being an obese wuss with no clue how to attract a girl.

He has a beautiful soul, and she loves him for him. Yeah, right.

In movies, the general plot served to us is that by being a nice, sensitive, approval-seeking chump the girl will sooner or later figure out that you are the man for her.

The message we’ve been fed is that somehow she will keep track of your good deeds, sum them up a month later, then resolve that she is attracted to you.
My friend, it’s only bullshit.

Men always do this. And it never works.
Ever.

In real life, girls don’t work this way. Lust, passion, and attraction don’t work this way.

She can’t decide she feels lust and attraction for you. She either does or she doesn’t. It’s your job to exert the proper attitude and be that kind of man girls are attracted to instinctively from the very beginning. As long as she needs weeks and months to realize it, it’s already way too late.

Because of all the misinformation we’ve been fed on the topic of “what girls want” guys have only been able to learn how to develop and maintain platonic relationships with girls, with the misguided hope that they will turn into erotic relationships.

Unfortunately, platonic relationships never lead women to eroticism. They have the exact opposite effect on them. The only effect will be that the woman will further stick you into the platonic friend zone the more you come up with acts of kindness and proofs of friendship.

So what the fuck are you supposed to do? What do girls want after all?

Don’t worry. The solution isn’t as difficult as it seems.

If guys knew the truth about girls, they’d be so much bolder. They wouldn’t be always seeking her approval.

The hidden secret is that girls are desperate for men. They yearn for a real connection, with a real man. They are waiting there – ripe for the picking, easy targets – and guys have no clue how to go about it.

(This is an excerpt from the book STUD - The Ultimate Alpha Man's Manual, protected by copyright laws.).